Before surgery, I asked her for permission to have her father present for the routine immediate postop talk (though she might appear alert, her short-term memory will be impaired and her father could serve as a back-up memory). She explained, however, that he probably wouldn't be in the waiting room, since he might be with her mother in the car. Her mother, she further explained, had Alzheimer's and would be disruptive in public.Several times a year I talk with patients who want to hold off on necessary but not urgent surgery because they are the primary caregiver for a spouse with Alzheimer's Disease. Unspoken is the shared knowledge that such deferment may not be long. The interval between diagnosis and death can be just 3-4 years for patients older than 80 at diagnosis, up to ten years for younger patients; I would assume that Andrea's mother fits in the latter category.
I wonder if there is any association between Andrea's insistence on surgery, and the burden that she and her father carry.

